Frozen Conversations – the ways we get stuck
Mindfulness meditation makes us more aware of the inner conversations– those dramas that run over and over again in our minds. We recruit people to play certain roles in these inner conversations, but when we look closely we realize they are dream-masks. They aren’t real people.
Our intention is to interrupt these imaginary dramas, giving ourselves a breath of fresh air and a reality check.
Our inner conversations are just thoughts spinning in thin air. But listen carefully, and we find that these internal dialogues are pretty close to 100% negative. Why? Because the frozen dramas that run through our mind are trying to manage fear. Here are a few examples:
- the see-saw: We compare ourselves to someone wearing the mask of ‘inferior’, and we try to prove we’re better. Why are we afraid of not being good enough as we are?
- the courtroom: We find ourselves arguing our case, proving we’re right against someone wearing the mask of ‘enemy’. Why do we doubt ourselves?
- looking up the ladder: We obsess about competing with someone who’s wearing the mask of “superior”. Why do we need to prove ourselves?
- mistrust: We replay scenerios that prove we can’t trust someone we depend on. Why don’t we trust ourselves?
- punishing: We’re caught in relatiation fantasies about punishing someone cast in the role of ‘unforgiveable’. Why is disappointment so threatening?