Power Down and Tune In to Solitude with Pema Chodron

In this clip, the American Buddhist nun and author Pema Chödrön talks to Bill Moyers about the value of not only powering down our electronic devices but also quieting the racing mind. “You quickly learn that distractions are not just phone calls and emails. Our own mind and our longings, our cravings and our fantasies are also […]

A ‘We-first’ Approach that Prevented a Mass School Shooting

“…Tuesday’s gunman incident at an elementary school near Atlanta ended with no injuries or deaths. This is mainly thanks to Antoinette Tuff, a school clerk who spent about an hour calmly persuading the gunman to put his rifle down and surrender.” This is an extraordinary example of a real human being who simply leaned into […]

Wisdom of Not Knowing

” He who knows nothing is nearer the truth than he whose mind is filled with falsehoods and errors.” Thomas Jefferson When I came across this quotation my first thought was: ” how do I know which one is me? ”  When my mind is filled with falsehoods and error I’m usually the last to […]

Preventing Relationship Heart Attacks

Mindful conversation is naturally ‘we-first’, which means that the relationship between speaker and listener is valued. Whether we agree or disagree, it still matters that our listener can hear what we have to say.  And, when we’re listening, we try to understand what the speaker is trying to convey. This instinct to communicate with each […]

Self-Compassionate Conversations

I appreciate how the view of ‘we-first’ is streaming into our culture. For example, author, psychologist and researcher Dr. Kristen Neff focuses her work on self-compassion, which ( in the following excerpt from her website)  she describes as including the following three elements: Self-kindness. Self-compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, […]

Letting Go

  ” To become awakened we must give up identifying with the melodramas that surround us.”  Swami Ajaya Whenever I hear teachings like this, part of me nods in agreement but another part mutters ‘easier said than done‘. So today I’m contemplating the word ‘identify‘. Practicing mindful communication is training to be more open and […]