Green Light Conversations: Our Core Programming

“ Enlightened society is created one conversation at a time”.
~ Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche

The Five Keys To Mindful Communication 

This weekend workshop identifies ‘open, closed and in-between’ patterns in our conversations and our relationships.  The format includes mindfulness meditation, brief talks, mudra space awareness exercises, and dialogue groups. It is an introduction to the themes of the book The Five Keys To Mindful Communication.

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Green Zones: Creating An Encouraging Space

The focus is on deep listening and opening to the practice of we-first conversations—exploring and cultivating the basic goodness in others.  The challenge is to recognize and overcome the red light pattern of ‘see-saw’ conversations, using comparisons and opinions to inflate ourselves at the expense of others.

 

The Power of Peacemaking: Telling the Mirror-like Truth

The focus is on speaking our truth in a way that we can be heard, which is an extension of mirror-like listening.  The challenge is to discern the differences between what is true and the ‘toxic certainty’ of red light patterns, which either exaggerate or suppress the truth of the present moment.

Interrupting the four stages of heartless-mind: complaint, divisiveness, blame and retaliation, we train in ‘disciplined patience’, abiding compassionately instead of acting out when we feel uncomfortable, irritated or in pain.

 

Alone-Together:  The Four Seasons of Mindful Relationship

The focus is on a we-first approach to love.  We explore the differences between mindfully being ‘alone-together’ and the habitual way that we use other people as a way of running away from ourselves. Interrupting the four stages of mindless-heart:  isolation, craving, enmeshment, rejecting.

 

The Chemistry Of Emotions:  Open, Closed and In Between

The focus is on investigating and distinguishing the tender, empathic emotions of the ‘heart of sadness’ from the secondary ‘red light’ emotions that cause harm.  ‘In-between’ are the fears and self-doubts that normally trigger us to shut down.  In this workshop we protect this fearful mind in a ‘green zone’ with unconditional kindness and acceptance so that we can investigate the source of our fear-based identity.

 

The Stories of Our Lives: Unfreezing our Spiritual Autobiography

Sometimes we look back at our life experience with a mix of regret, angst and dissatisfaction, wondering why painful things happened, or why better things didn’t happen. In this retreat, we’ll look at our life with a renewed sense of curiosity, working with different models to “unfreeze” our descriptions of our lives, and discover the “hidden gold” buried in the challenging and powerful experiences that made us who we are in this very moment.

 

 

These trainings are available as:

  • Classes:  three hour modules teach the core themes of the work
  • Workshops: one or two day workshops give the participant an opportunity to engage with the material
  • Retreats: In a longer retreat we go more deeply into the process of deep listening, encouragement and working with the five key points of mindful communication.